Ep. 145: How Long Does a Woman Want Her Man to Be?

In this episode of the Dr. Sex Fairy podcast, I dive into the question everyone is thinking about and some seem to be asking: how long does a woman want her man's penis to be? As a sexual medicine expert, I have seen firsthand what women truly desire and how much size really matters. Forget the myths—let's talk about the facts. I share my insights on what length and girth mean for sexual satisfaction, what women are really thinking, and how confidence can make all the difference in the bedroom. We also discuss the statistics. Trust me, you don’t want to miss this episode! Listen now for some eye-opening truths.

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How Long Does a Woman Want Her Man to Be?

Welcome to America’s top sexuality podcast, Dr. Sex Fairy. I am Dr. Kanwal Bawa, America’s favorite sex doctor, and I am here to transform your life. Thank you for joining me comma and don't forget to hit that subscribe button, leave a 5-star review, and share this podcast with anyone who wants to level up their love life and intimate wellness.

Now, let’s get to today’s topic, which is one that stirs endless curiosity and controversy: how long do women really want their man’s penis to be? It is a question people have asked and argued about for ages, and today, I will break it all down. But here’s the thing—I’m going to keep you in suspense a bit longer before I reveal what women say about the ideal penis size. 

We will be covering whether girth is more important than length, how confidence affects your performance in bed, and the ways age, blood flow and erectile dysfunction (ED) can impact size. On top of that, we will touch on some exciting products like Dr. Sex Fairy supplements and our upcoming launch of The Pump by Dr. Sex Fairy. And while we are at it, do you want to know what Victoria Beckham thinks about David Beckham’s penis size?  That is coming up later as well. So, let’s get started!

When people talk about size, they usually focus on length. That’s what you hear in conversations, in surveys, and even in some studies. But the real game-changer when it comes to satisfying penetrative sex is actually girth. You see, the vaginal walls are incredibly sensitive to pressure. A penis with sufficient girth presses against these walls in a way that provides deeper stimulation. And here’s the key—what many people think of as the G-spot isn’t a separate structure inside the vagina. Instead, it’s part of the inner clitoral network. The clitoris isn’t just that small external part, that little button—it extends inward and surrounds the vaginal canal in a horseshoe shape. So, when we talk about stimulating the G-spot, we are really talking about stimulating the inner portion of the clitoris.

A penis with more girth makes better contact with these sensitive inner clitoral structures, enhancing the pressure that leads to more powerful orgasms. This is why girth often matters more than length. Women aren’t just looking for a long penis—they want one that fills them and presses against them all the right places.

Length, while important for some women, can be less impactful without the girth that provides full contact with the vaginal walls. It’s the girth that creates that deep, satisfying sensation of fullness that so many women crave. In an ideal world a man has both length and girth, and this is where I come in, but more on that later.

As men age, they often experience a natural decline in both girth and length, particularly if they suffer from erectile dysfunction or ED. This happens because the blood flow to the penis reduces with age, leading to erections that simply aren’t as hard as they used to be, if a man can get them at all. As testosterone levels drop, both function and libido can weaken. For many men, this leads to frustration, anxiety, and even a loss of confidence in their sexual performance.

When I work with men, I often hear concerns about how their size has changed over time. Some of them used to feel great about their size but have started noticing changes as they get older. Their partners may feel the difference too, which can strain the relationship. Fortunately, there are solutions. That’s why I developed the BawaBig® non-surgical penile enlargement procedure. This procedure is designed to help men regain their girth and even their length to some extent. Some men are already blessed with a large penis, but want to be bigger still and enhance what they have at baseline. It is a non-invasive, safe procedure that can restore both size and confidence. My patients consistently report feeling renewed—both physically and emotionally—after undergoing the BawaBig treatment.

But this isn’t just about boosting size for vanity’s sake. When men feel good about their size, it boosts their confidence, and that confidence translates directly into how they perform in the both the bedroom and the boardroom. A man who feels confident is more relaxed, attentive, and fully present with his partner, creating a more fulfilling experience for both.

Now, let’s dive into how girth affects women’s orgasms. As I mentioned earlier, what we traditionally call the G-spot is actually part of the internal clitoral structure. The clitoris isn’t just the small external nub we can see—it extends into the vaginal canal. When a thick penis enters the vagina, it creates pressure against the inner part of the clitoris. This pressure is crucial for stimulating the vaginal walls and the clitoral network that lies within them. It is this combination of internal and external clitoral stimulation that leads to more intense orgasms for many women.

A skinny penis won’t press deeply enough against the clitoral structures inside the vagina, and so the sensation won’t be as intense for either the man or the woman. Women need that sense of fullness and men need to feel gripped as well. That’s why many women prioritize girth over length when they talk about what makes penetrative sex satisfying. And this is also why many men come to me for non-surgical penis enlargement using my BawaBig method.

Now, while we’ve been focusing on the physical aspects of size, it is important to talk about confidence and emotional connection, because they play a critical role in how satisfying sex is for both partners. A man who feels good about his body and his size is more likely to be confident and engaged in the sexual experience. Confidence allows him to focus on his partner’s needs, and that attentiveness can make all the difference in how connected the couple feels. When a man is confident, his partner can feel that energy, and it adds to the overall pleasure of the experience.

And let’s not forget about the power of emotional connection. Feeling emotionally connected to your partner enhances the physical sensations you both experience. When there is trust and intimacy, the physical aspects of sex, including size, feel even more pleasurable. It is not just about having the right size—it’s about using that size in a way that deepens the connection between your partner and you.

Regardless of size, one of the most critical components of great sex is foreplay. Without sufficient arousal, even the perfect size can feel uncomfortable or less satisfying. Foreplay helps increase blood flow to the vaginal area, lubricates the vagina, and prepares the body for penetration. Moreover, more women are able to orgasm through clitoral stimulation on the outside compared to stimulation inside the vagina. While giving your partner an internal orgasm is a worthy goal, make sure you get her to an orgasm externally with foreplay first. Use your tongue, use your hands, use a toy… You get my point. Why not try to get her to experience more than one orgasm at a time? The more the merrier.

Remember, for women foreplay isn’t just about getting ready for sex—it’s an integral part of the experience. Kissing, touching, and oral sex create an emotional and physical connection that heightens arousal. When a woman is fully aroused, her body is much more receptive to the sensations, making penetration more pleasurable.

So what penis size do women really want? I know that you’ve been waiting for this. According to a survey conducted by Big One Dating, and later published in the New York Post, women prefer a penis length of 7 to 8 inches for long-term relationships, with slightly larger preferences for casual flings. Specifically, 44% of women said that 8 inches was the ideal length for sexual satisfaction. However, while length may capture attention, as we discussed, girth is what truly drives the most satisfying experience. 

Based on my work with men and women from around the world, I have found that girth makes a huge difference when it comes to creating that deep, fulfilling sensation. Without enough girth, length alone doesn’t provide the internal stimulation that many women crave.

Even celebrities get in on the conversation about size from time to time. Victoria Beckham, for instance, made headlines when she cheekily commented on her husband David Beckham’s famous Emporio Armani underwear ad. She said, “I still have a really good sex life with David. He is very much in proportion. He does have a huge one, though. You can see it in the advert. It’s all his. It’s like a tractor exhaust pipe!” For many, size and confidence go hand in hand, influencing not just physical satisfaction but relationship dynamics as well.

Beyond size, there are other ways to enhance your sexual health, and that is why I have developed the Dr. Sex Fairy supplement line. Whether you are looking to boost your libido, increase stamina, or improve your overall sexual function, my US-made supplement line is here to help you optimize your body naturally. Renew is a testosterone booster. Enhance is a nitric oxide booster. This increases blood supply to penises and vaginas, and the skin, hair and nails as well. The third supplement Passion supports libido as well as general sexual performance. They are for both men and women, and work best when you take all three. These supplements are designed to support your sexual health, ensuring that you feel confident and ready for anything. The purchase link is available in the podcast description below, or you can just go to the shop at drsexfairy.com.

And here’s something exciting—we are launching The Pump by Dr. Sex Fairy very soon! This new product is designed to help men enhance their size naturally and improve sexual performance by increasing blood flow into the penis. We are already taking pre-orders, and we expect The Pump to sell out quickly, so if you’re interested, I highly recommend placing your pre-order now. The link is available in the podcast description below or the shop at drsexfairy.com. Don’t miss your chance to try this amazing product!

So, what’s the final takeaway? Size matters, especially girth. Women want to feel that full, deep pressure that comes from a thicker penis. And while length can be a nice bonus, it’s the girth that truly enhances the sexual experience by providing greater internal stimulation. While size matters, size alone isn’t everything. Confidence, emotional connection, and technique all play significant roles in creating a satisfying sex life. Whether you are thinking about enhancing your size with BawaBig, optimizing your health with Dr. Sex Fairy supplements, or pre-ordering The Pump by Dr. Sex Fairy, it is all about bringing everything together for a complete and fulfilling sexual experience.

The most important thing to remember is that sex is a combination of factors—size, confidence, emotional connection, and technique. When you feel good about yourself, communicate openly with your partner, and focus on their pleasure as well as your own, that is when the magic happens. And if enhancing your size can add to that confidence and satisfaction, then why not explore the options?

Whether you are looking to regain size due to aging or ED, boost your libido, or just feel more confident in your sexual performance, I am here to help. BawaBig offers a non-surgical way to enhance both girth and length, giving you that extra boost of confidence. And don’t forget about The Pump by Dr. Sex Fairy, which is set to launch very soon and is already in high demand. Be sure to place your pre-order now to secure your pump before it sells out. 

Thank you for joining me on this episode of Dr. Sex Fairy. If you have any questions about the topics we have covered today or want to learn more about our supplements and products, check out the links in the podcast description. Remember, sexual satisfaction is about more than just size, but when you get the balance right, the experience can be life-changing. Until next time!